College life is the greatest intoxication for someone who has just passed out of school. Writing on this topic, I will be taking you back to my old days – both bitter and sweet.
So, you finally completed high school. Congratulations, you’ve successfully crossed the first major phase of your life.
A quick confession and warning here: YOU WILL MISS WHAT YOU HAVE LEFT BEHIND FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
Your school life won’t return now. But, I know that, like all of us, all the memories you have created will reside safely inside your heart.
Today, I’ll be sharing a few things that you should know before you move ahead and take the next step of your life.
Since I’m writing for my younger readers for the first time, I’d like to take the liberty of welcoming you to my blog. This is my happy place of words, where I come twice a week to talk to you and share my thoughts with you.
So, if you are here for the first time, WELCOME!!!
I promise you’ll have a great time in my space. Moreover, I will try my best to deliver what I promise.
Now, back to the topic. The period between School and College.
You are on the verge of taking an extremely important decision in your life. And, like most of us are at this age, you’d be possibly clueless about a lot of things. You might be having a lot of questions popping up inside your head every now and then. To say,
- What field should I choose?
- Which college should I opt for?
- What will I do if I do not clear the entrance exam I have appeared for?
- How will I face my parents if I fail?
- What will I do if I don’t get accepted into any college?
- What if my dream college rejects me?
And, a lot of these. These questions will vary depending on person to person.
Now before we begin the “real talk”, I want you to do three things:
- Take a deep breath.
- Close your eyes, rub your palms against each other, and place them on your eyes.
- Drink water.
Feeling better? Great, let’s begin.
Hey, I know you will be having a lot of relatives, family members, or acquaintances giving you advice on “what is right for you”. But, here is the thing you ought to do.
Listen to the world, and welcome their advice but follow YOUR heart, and accept YOUR inner voice.
Why do I say so?
I know people find you incapable to choose for yourself considering life. But, whatever you choose today will simply reside in some corner of your heart in the future. And, it will take you on the path that you will choose or maybe it won’t.
Confused? Let me explain.
When I say follow your heart, I don’t ask you to be rebellious. I am asking you to be easy on yourself and choose what you want to do. I am asking you to not suppress yourself under the burden of expectations of anybody.
But, if you are clueless about what you want from life. Then, you need to take extra care of yourself. And, if you have scored low in your final exams, please hear me out clearly- these marks won’t matter in life. Nobody will ask you how much you scored in high school.
Trust me, it’s been five years since I passed out of my school. And, I haven’t had one sensible person question me about my high school scores.
I know how it feels when all your friends are taking admissions into colleges and planning their life.
I scored a minimum of 64% in my final school exams. And, this is the first time I am admitting it openly. Because, as I mentioned above, these marks have nothing to do with what I am planning for my life.
Yes, the only sign they hold today is that they are proof that I am qualified with my high school education. Otherwise, the mark sheet is a mere piece of paper that rests inside my cupboard, all laminated.
I was a clueless girl when I began my college life. In fact, I went to Amity University because I failed my medical entrance exam twice. I didn’t score enough to secure my seat at Delhi University too.
I was miserable. Trust me. Those were the most depressing months, not just for me but for my family too.
My middle school exam result was so overwhelming that it made me think I will choose the conventional path decided for me by society and by my family. An 89% in 10th standard sounds extremely fantastic, but it takes you into that deep pit that is surrounded by expectations of people you don’t even know.
I had people calling my father and telling him “your daughter would be a doctor someday, she has scored so well”. Keeping it honest with you here, the societal pressure and all the appreciation I received felt good back then.
But, each of them contributed to fabricating my supposed “dream” with the threads that were handed over to me by society.
I decided I’ll be a doctor. I chose medical subjects for higher studies. And, except for English, I was continuously screwing each of the others. Maths, Physics, Chemistry, Biology – every school exam had me score less than what I expected from myself.
Forget about anybody else, I was embarrassing myself in my eyes.
All of this was happening while I was giving my all in trying to score better. This is how life changes. And, when I could not get into any of the reputed colleges I forced my father to send me to Amity because I didn’t want to sit at home.
I must agree that as much as the stagnant life of 4-5 months bothered me, it took a toll on my parent’s mental health too.
But, I am extremely blessed that my father went against his will and agreed to send me to Amity University.
That place changed my entire life, it made me who I am today. The people, the friends I made, the professors who taught us, the environment, everything. Each of them is very much credible to who and what you see me as now.
I receive a lot of compliments from people and relatives about my English speaking skills. So, here is a confession – I owe it to Amity University.
And, more than that I owe it to my father for giving me the best education to date even when I unintentionally crushed his dream of seeing me as a doctor. I owe it to my mother for being the constant source of strength in my life and teaching me to take life as it comes.
By writing all this, I do not intend to glorify the college life I have had. But, I do aim for you to have faith in life.
When things don’t work out in your favor, when your plans fail – you need to understand that God has a better plan for you.
Had I been a doctor, I had never have been the woman I am today. Nothing liberates me more than showing up here and talking to you guys.
So today, I am just here to remind you that life helps itself out. Just make sure you stay bold and strong to take whatever it offers.
Life has got its ways to make things work for you, it will lead you to your purpose in life. The only condition that remains is that you don’t give up on yourself, you keep moving ahead.
I hope this would have helped you in some or the other way.
If you are the one I addressed in this blog then do drop your feedback in the comments below.
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Wishing you all the strength and goodwill in life!!!
See you on Sunday!!!