A successful relationship doesn’t happen overnight. It takes trust, loyalty, understanding, compromises, and patience. When you see a couple all happy and mushy on social media or in real life, you must know that their bond goes beyond that. All romantic relationships go through several ups and downs. Just like any other aspect of life to be successful, in relationships also take effort and work.   

Humans are social beings. If there is one thing that the digital revolution hasn’t changed, it is how we flourish with the right relationships in our lives. Successful relationships are one not-so-secret weapon that helps us thrive as individuals and as couples. 

Our romantic relationships are one of the most important pillars of our lives. In a real and successful relationship, it is always the little things that matter the most. Loving and falling for each other is just the beginning. Real feelings and connections surpass the dinner dates and social media extravaganza. Your romantic partner should add to your happiness and good health. 

A healthy and successful relationship is not based on power and control. A relationship becomes successful when you both value each other’s presence and respect each other’s opinions in life.  

To make it an everlasting bond, the ground rule is “treat your partner how you want to be treated”. 

Here are the 5 basic core pillars of a successful relationship. These are the ingredients you need to build a relationship that is successful, healthy, and brings out the best in you. 

5 Core pillars of a Successful Relationship  

1. Trust 

No successful relationship flourishes without trust and loyalty. If you can trust each other wholeheartedly, you will be able to stand the test of time over and over again. Loyalty breeds trust. If you value the bond you have with your partner, staying loyal and truthful to them is the easiest thing to do. 

When you trust each other, there is no place for red flags like unwanted doubts, suspicions, and other arguments that happen unreasonably. Trust amplifies love in a successful relationship. It strengthens your bond and makes you overcome even the most difficult of times together. 

2. Open communication

Communication is the root of a fulfilling relationship. Conveying your expectations and needs in a relationship allows you both to understand each other and thrive together as a couple. When you suppress your thoughts or feel hesitant in sharing your feelings, you are giving room to unwanted hurt. 

When both of you communicate effectively, you make it easy for each other to have healthy discussions. Communicating openly is an important sign of a successful relationship because it resolves conflicts and gives each other the time to understand and compromise as per the situation. 

3. Healthy Boundaries 

Having healthy boundaries is another sign of a healthy and successful relationship. Yes, you are a couple and you are meant to be with each other. But, it is quintessential to have your personal space as well. Giving each other space as individuals is as important as establishing strong communication.

Healthy boundaries make you responsible for your thoughts, values, attitudes, emotions, preferences, words, bodies, and actions. It gives you the authority to take hold of your existence as an individual, outside the relationship. Establishing boundaries enhances your relationships because they allow you to treat your partner as they desire and deserve. 

4. Mutual respect and support 

Being in love and having feelings for each other are important. But, mutual respect and support are the real roots. They make a union successful. To be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t add value to your life and doesn’t respect you is probably the easiest way to hurt yourself. If you want your relationship to be successful, you ought to be with someone who respects you and your choices in life. 

Mutual respect and support are the stepping stones to building trust, safety, and emotional well-being as a couple. When you are respectful and supportive toward each other, you’re open to accepting your partner’s flaws, weaknesses, and imperfections. You encourage each other to look beyond disagreements and find peace even in chaos. 

5. Accountability 

Open communication is an important part of a successful relationship. But, what happens when the key doesn’t fit into the lock? What if the key gets stuck? Then the only way is to pull out the key without unlocking it. It’s the same with relationships. Often it is said, that talking about things makes it easier but what to do when even talking doesn’t help? The relationship begins to fall apart.

Unless you are accountable for your words and actions, communication cannot work. Accountability is significant for the nourishment of your relationship, both as an individual and as a partner. Along with everything else, relationships thrive when you acknowledge your feelings and thoughts, whether good or bad.

No relationship is perfect, every bond goes through terrible times. Problems are an inevitable part of every relationship but becoming accountable helps you to implement the solution you seek. 

How to know you’re in a good successful relationship?

You know the 5 core pillars of a relationship now. These are what you should be aiming for as an individual and as a couple. But, whether your relationship has just begun or it’s an old one, how do you know if they are the right one for you? 

Here are 9 signs you must look for in your partner to know if they are the one: 

1. They support you in your dreams. They don’t hold you back from doing what you love. 
2. They value your presence in their life. They appreciate you as a partner. 
3. They are there if you need them during any crisis. They hear you. 
4. They accept your shortcomings. They don’t ask you to change yourself for them. 
5. They dedicate “alone time” with you regularly. They understand the power of intimacy. 
6. They treat you equally in this relationship. There are no gender roles between you two. 
7. They are grateful to have you. They acknowledge how you make their life better. 
8. They handle disagreements well. They accept and appreciate your choices in life. 
9. They know how to make you happy. They give importance to your personal wellness too.

Strive to notice these qualities in your partner. But. also make sure to offer them the same. Do for them what you expect to be done for you. That is how you build a successful relationship. 

Conclusion: 

Relationships today are not what they were back then. The digital age has given us so many options to choose from. The social media era has left us craving attention. Unless partners can stand strong on the 5 core pillars mentioned above, sustaining a successful relationship will always feel like a task. 

Successful relationships take work and effort. There is no one perfect blueprint for that. But, the reality is when you love someone wholeheartedly, the easiest thing to do is stay loyal to them, no problem seems bigger.

When you know they are the one, no storm can divide you. Yes, there are problems, disagreements, and other distractions, but when you are true to each other, it is your sincerity toward your relationship that keeps you both together forever. 

I hope you enjoyed reading my two cents on having a successful relationship. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below and don’t forget to follow me on Instagram and LinkedIn.

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Until then, keep loving thy partner!