Patience is rather a rare trait of personality today. The lives we are living in the present world, it has severely impacted our level of resilience and tolerance towards life.
Hi there, welcome to another read of my happy place. Today, I’m here to talk about a topic which is rather sensitive in the present times – Patience.
We are too impatient to get things done. We want to achieve success overnight. We thrive to touch our goals at the soonest.
Amidst all this, we have completely forgotten that it takes time to grow a seed into a fruit-bearing tree.
We have forgotten that patience is the only trait that will take us forward in life. Patience, today, is not only required with our own goals but with the people, we love as well.
Here, I am not pointing towards a romantic relationship only. But, by talking about patience in relation to our relationships, I am trying to emphasize its importance in every aspect of life.
More often than not, the people who love us want us to understand them. They want us to be able to see the situation and circumstances while stepping into their shoes. And, more often than not, a lot of us fail at this.
We simply end up losing these people from our lives. I was at the same place ones. And today, I see around me how people refrain to talk to each other while living under the same roof. They prefer their “privacy” over anything else, which is certainly not wrong. But, what cost are we paying for it?
Therefore, with the only intention of asking you people to stop for a bit and think about it, I’ll be jotting down 5 ways in which we can inculcate patience in our relationships and lives.
Step into the person’s shoes
It is very easy to get irritated and pour out all your frustrations on to the other person. And, it is extremely difficult to understand the situation from another person’s perspectives and then act accordingly.
This implies with all your relationships in life – Parents, siblings, spouses/partners, and friends too.
I was this impatient girl always but life has been smart enough to teach me patience the hardest way it could. I’ll talk about it some other day.
But, as of now, the next time you are angry and fired up at someone, do this. Take a deep breath, calm yourself down. And, try to understand their perspective too.
Acceptance of flaws helps to increase the patience level
This one is mainly concerned with the relationships we have with our partners. Falling in love is the easiest thing to do. What is difficult is staying in love.
It is easy to claim and sing promises. But, it becomes difficult to stay at your word as you proceed in life. This is the real test of patience.
Your partner may not be the same person they were when you started the relationship. That doesn’t mean they have changed, that simply means they have evolved. And, there is a thin line of difference between changing and evolving.
If you truly believe they are the ones for you, both of you should try and accept each other’s flaws. No, I am not asking you to accept anything wrong from your partner’s side.
But, little flaws that don’t hamper the harmony of your relationship and allow you to be happy both as a couple and as an individual.
Communication is the root of patience in life
Not all of us are too good at expressing our hearts out. Especially when life turns sour, we keep all the emotions inside us. This doesn’t only affect the individual but also creates unnecessary tensions with the people related to them.
I agree that some of us are not too outspoken and candid to blatantly express ourselves. But, at least we can try.
Trust me, there is no situation in the world that communication cannot handle. Communicating and expressing yourselves will always save you and your loved ones (or anybody else) from a lot of unwanted chaos.
Just being vocal about your insecurities and allowing the other person to know how you feel about certain things or situations will save you a lot of time and emotions in life. Also, it will increase the level of your patience in relation to the person.
Sometimes, we are too scared of exploring and understanding our own needs and wants that we tend to blame it on the other person or situation in life.
While most of them are the cause of our own deeds, we forget to acknowledge this.
Nothing happens on its own. All that we experience in life; good-bad, happy-sad; is the consequence of how we went with life. Thus, the most important thing to help us become more patient in life is to understand oneself.
When we are aware of what we want, when we are aware of the time taken by the process, when we are aware of the reality of the situation – we tend to become more patient and tolerant towards life.
Tailor your response according to the relationship
Though, this is a very basic and obvious point. But, oftentimes we forget to realize this. We cannot treat and talk to every person the same way.
It is not a one-way-fits-all type of thing. The relationship we share with our parents is very different from the relationship we have with our siblings. Similarly, the relationship we have with our friends is way different from the one we have with our partners.
Hence, every relationship demands a different treatment to survive and flourish. And, we ought to keep that in mind every time we go forward to communicate.
You must have heard this a lot of times – “Good things come to those who wait.” Indeed, they do.
Patience is the strongest virtue that one can possess. It is what has taken people to heights in life. Your humbleness and patience today, with life and the people who love you, will take you forward in life. Not all can possess it, it is difficult to imbibe and much difficult to practice.
Aristotle said: “Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.” Life has its ways of teaching us the simpler lessons. I have learned a few of mine the same way. And, patience is one of them.
I hope I have been able to convey my thoughts the right way to you. Do share your views in the comments below.
And, feel free to reach out to me here, if needed.
I shall meet you on Sunday with a new topic and a new blog.